Have you ever struggled with confidence? Maybe in yourself, maybe even in others.
Confidence is a game changer, but just saying "believe in yourself" isn't helpful.
So how do you handle things when your confidence dips?
I'll be real.
I used to 'break up' with people. Or opportunities.
I'd back away from opportunities, maybe even end a friendship or relationship, or just peace out and stop replying to people.
What I found was, that wasn't serving me very well.
I'd end up outside of circles I later thought I might've wanted to be in. Or stay in.
All because I lacked confidence in navigating the situation.
So let's unpack how we become more confident!
(⬇️ Btw, watch instead of reading, or read on below. ⬇️)
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Dan Sullivan wrote a book called The Four Cs Formula.
In it, he talks about the paths people take to become more successful in business and in life.
And one of the things he talks about is (obviously)...the 4 C's Formula!
Commitment
If we're looking to have more confidence, that begins by making a commitment to something.
That commitment can be scary.
So that's exactly where most people get stopped. Right at the very beginning.
Courage
That commitment is followed by taking some courageous steps. The courage to do or say 'the thing' you need to do or say, over and over again.
Even if it's ugly. Even if it's not smooth. Even if it doesn't look good.
Capability
Repetition is the foundation of clarity. So by having the courage to do or say 'the thing' over and over again (and then actually do it), you become more capable.
You open up your capacity. You become better and better.
(By the way, I don't know if you noticed, but I didn't say "First, you need to make time in your calendar"--and you probably know how much I love my time blocking!)
Just do the thing.
Confidence
And that capability is what moves you into a greater level of confidence
Then we can start all over again with something.
When we lead ourselves well, we move from an opportunity through inspiration...the courage into innovation...where we get the capacity and the capability...which results in confidence and allows us to learn more.
Learn more so we can begin again.
That's what it's all about. A neverending circle of betterment feeding confidence feeding betterment feeding confidence...and on and on.
Doesn't that seem like a better way of doing life? Or would you rather keep shutting the door on people and opportunities?
John Maxwell in The Law of the Lid says, "Leadership ability is the lid that determines a person's level of effectiveness. The lower an individual's ability to lead, the lower the lid on his potential."
So lead yourself! You are truly the most important person you will ever lead.
(And if you want help breaking through this, check out my new Group Coaching that starts June 3rd! It's a perfect way to may sure you keep putting one foot in front of the other.)
Love doing life with you,
Dawn
PS - Bonus tip: Over the years, I've found when I'm struggling with confidence in one area...it's usually coming from something unrelated. An entirely different area of life where something wasn't going well, or I was struggling. So be sure to look at that for yourself!
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