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Stop focusing on what you're missing

Dec 17, 2025
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Do you have that one thing that gets all your attention?

The one thing that you can't stop thinking about?

The one thing that you obsess spending time and energy over?

And here's the kicker...

Is that one thing something that's out of your control?

Is that one thing not even one of your strengths?

Is that one thing an unrealistic standard you're holding yourself (or someone else) to?

I realized today that often, my one thing isn't something I do well and yet...that's the choice I make. That's where I choose to put my energy.

Like this time of year?...

(⬇️ Btw, watch instead of reading, or read on below.)

Stop focusing on what you're missing.

This time of year my one thing is feeling like I need to—or want to—take gifts to everyone I see around the holidays.

"Oh, I didn't end up getting what I wanted for that person."

"Oh my gosh, I didn't even think about that person when I was making my holiday list."

And I get so hyper fixated on that. Like, "Oh my gosh, I can't set that appointment because I don't have anything for them."

So it stops me. And paralyzes me.

So here's my question for you:

Where are you getting paralyzed by what's missing?

Are you ready for this?

We can't do it all.

Our resources aren't unlimited. Our time. Our energy. Our money.  Our attention.

None of it is unlimited.

So why are you holding yourself to those standards?

Stop focusing on what you're missing, or what you feel like you're failing at.

Let it go!

And instead, direct that energy to what you're good at. Or what IS in your control. Or what IS possible.

A couple years ago, we had an Amazon Christmas. 2-3 days before Christmas, we ordered everything and had it sent in the brown box with the person's name on it, and it went straight under the tree. No paying extra for cute wrapping paper. Brown box, name on Amazon-printed label, under the tree. 😂

What's possible? What's in your control?

Love doing life with you,
Dawn

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